Attraction for a women is allot different than attraction for a man. Attraction for a man is when you see a stunning girl, you will instantly feel attraction for her. This is her flicking your attraction switches, she is demonstrating; fertility, health, youth, etc. However for a women to feel attracted to a male usualy she will have to enter a conversation with that male to realise he is attractive. This is because women have different attraction switches than men, sure health is definatly one of them, but health and looks are not the highest rating attraction switches for a female. In order for a girl to feel attraction towards a male, he will have to “flick” the attraction switches. The beautiful thing about attraction is that “Attraction is not a choice” – David DeAngelo. If you flick the attraction switches she will have no choice but to feel attraction towards you. This is exaclty the same for men when a stunning girl enters the room, she has flicked your attraction switches simply with her looks, and you will have no choice but to instantly feel attracted towards her. Attraction is something in your subconsious and you cannot control.

In order for you to be attractive enough for a girl, as mentioned in Female Phychology, you must have higher value than a women. In other words you must display more attractive qualities than what she does. It is a battle of value between yourself and a women. You must be constantly raising your value whilst disregarding hers. Girls will oftern know that they are good looking and that many men find her attractive. You must have more confidence with the idea that women find you attractive. Have the mentality that you have been with even more attractive women than her. A women will not want to be with a man who has less value than her, you always want something better.

Demonstration of Higher Value (DHV)

Demonstrating attractive qualities is refered to as a Demonstration of Higher Value. You must have more value than a girl. To do this we use small demonstrations and storytelling with embedded DHV’s.

For example you can tell her a story about the time when you got lost while overseas with your girlfriend, but managed to have the best time! Simply telling the story well is a demonstration of good social intuition. Within the story you would had mentioned going overseas which suggest you have an exciting lifestyle that involves travelling and culture. You also would had mentioned the fact that you had a girlfriend at the time which suggest you are not a total looser and that girls do find you attractive enough to date, demonstrating pre-selection.

The secret behind embedding DHV’s is to throw them into a story and not make the story about your attractive qualities. We use storys because they are a more subtle way of DHVing. If you were talking to someone and said something like “I had a girlfriend and i travel overseas allot” you are showing bad social intuition to start with, the girl is much more likley to disbelive what you have said, and you would had come across as arrogant. Notice in the previous example it was a story about getting lost but having the best time, not about your girlfriend and lifestyle. Girls are masters of subcontext and bodylanguage. They will pick up on the subtle things you say and do as well as the subcontexts that you use.

Attraction Switches

The attraction switches are things that you must demonstrate to a women in order for her to feel attraction towards you. They are refered to as switches because all you have to do is demonstrate them and a girl will instantly feel some form of attraction towards you. This is subconsious and a girl has no control over who she is attracted to. Hence it is like flicking a switch, you demonstrate and she will be attracted. You will want to demonstrate as much of these qualities as possible to build strong attraction towards yourself.

Essentials

These are what we regard as nesessities in pick up. If you are unable to demonstrate these values then it is very unlikley that you will sucessfuly pickup.

• Humor
  This doesnt mean knock knock jokes! You have to be witty and able to make little jokes on things whilst in a conversation or tell funny storys. Humor has been for a long time seen as an attractive quality. The act of laughing releses cemicals from the brain making you happyer. Its also a great way to build social interactions.
• Social Intuition
  We live in a society and are all social creatures. Being such means to be sucessful we have to be socially calibrated. We have to demonstrate to women that we are able to withstand social pressures and lead a group. Girls are usualy incredibly social, you have not only to keep up but to surpass her social status.
• Challanging
  A girl does not like what comes easy to them. If you are a push over she will get bored with you very quickly and will see her value as being higher than yours. However if you are challanging you will be able to get the girl to become interested in you. Treat the target as you would a bratty sister thoughout the attraction stage. By doing this you are flicking her attraction switch and she will see you as more than just one of the hundreds of nice guys that have approached her.

Additional

These are extra values that girls will look for. If you are able to demonstrate these values you can increase a womens attraction towards you.

• Leader of men
  Girls will flock towards the alpha male. They are evolutionary  programmed to desire the leader of men. A general rule is “lead the men and the women will follow”. To demonstrate this first make sure you pay attention to the males in the group. Second you have to engage them, this can be done though telling them a story (and holding their interest thought it), teaching them something new, showing them something cool like a magic trick, etc.
• Protector of loved ones
  As Mystery points out the courtship of a male and a female is the exchange of two life archivements. To survice and to replicate. The female brings the ability to replicate and the male brings the ability to survive. Girls want a guy who can help them (and any future offspring) survive though physical protection, shelter, food, etc.  To demonstrate this value you can tell stories about helping out an exgirlfriend or female family member in trouble. Another great way to trigger this attraction switch is to feed her, this hits her subcoinsious mind of being protected.
• Status
  The social world we live in is a social hirachy. Allot of guys dont see it, but many girls play it. Girls will oftern play the social game, befirending girls for social status rather than actualy liking the girl. Having a good boyfriend to a girl is much like having a good job to a guy. If we have a good job we want our friends to know about it and it boosts our social status. Girls will want a high status guy that they can tell their friends about. Status can be demonstrated though; an attractive job (director, club manager, photographer, etc), you can also demonstrate status though the way other people treat you. You can have your friends buy you a drink in front of her, or thank you for something you did for them. You can know the bouncers at a club and get them to let you go to the front of the line. Status can also be seen though association, so having a friend who is in a position of status can also raise your status.
• Wealth
  Unfortunately yes wealth is a female attraction switch, as is good looks a male attraction switch. Wealth suggest to a women that you are able to provide for her and her future offspring. This is a switch which is best demonstrated though subtlety. Wealth is something that you can overdo so dont push it, you want her to know, or think you are wealthy without shoving it in her face. If you can have large bills in your wallet which she can notice when you buy a drink. You can subtly mention wealth in your stories e.g “I was on my way to pick up my sister from the club, I had to wind down the windows to get rid of that new car smell, and …”.
• Health
  Biogicaly health is a stong indicator of fertility. If you are living a healthy life it suggest that your children will do the same, giving them a greater chance of surviving. This is picked up on a subconsious level and is best demonstrated though grooming, athletic ability.

Power Switches

These are what we refer to as power switches. If you can demonstrate these values you can boost a womens attraction to you to the point where she will want to seduce you. Demonstrating any of these values can also make up for lacking other areas. However the most beautiful girls may come to expect that you demonstrate all of these values.

• Fun
• Confidence
• Preselection

Indicator of Interest (IOI)

An indicator of interest, to put another way is a sign that a girl is attracted to you. While she might not always verbalise her attraction she will either consiously or subconsiously give you an IOI.

Warning: Allot of guys whilst lerning PUA tend to get suck on IOI’s. Just because you recive IOI’s from a girl does not mean she will sleep with you. Do not become someone addicted to IOI’s, you have to push on past attraction to be able to sucessfuly close.

After around 3 IOI’s you should escalate into the next phase “Qualification”, however. Attraction is something that a girl must hold thoughout the entire interaction so make sure you keep high attraction levels.

Here are a list of IOI’s you can look for

• She touches her hair
• She leans in whilst you talk
• She laughs at your jokes, even if no one else does
• She overly laughs at your jokes
• She asks for your name
• She stays with you when her friends do something else
• She touches her neck while talking to you
• She grooms you (wipes something off your shirt or adjust a peice of your clothing)
• She adjusts her something about herself to look better (e.g. clothing, hair, jewlery)
• She touches your necklace to have a look
• She approaches you
• She compliments you
• She simulates sex with something shes doing e.g. she continually pushes her straw in and out of her cup

Note: girls will sometimes feed fake IOI’s to test for a reaction, if you react it will let her know your attracted to her. Whenever you notice an IOI do not react on it. Being unreactive is being cool and confident. It will also have her thinking “why isnt he reacting to what im doing”. The most common fake IOIs is touching you. You can tell if it is fake if you have not yet demonstrated enough attraction to gain an IOI, e.g. you have just approached with an indirect opener.

If a girl touches you before the qualification stage the best way to handle it, wheather she is genuinly attracted to you or not, is to say something like “hey hands off, you have to buy me a drink before you can start groping me like that” or “hey its $10 a touch, I dont come cheap you know”. Almost everytime you say something like that the girl will want to touch you more. This is demonstrating confidence and humor. It also lets them know that you noticed her touching you and he cant get away with fake IOI’s.

IOI Tests

If you cannot see many IOI’s or would like to test to see if she is interested in you there are certain things you can do to see if she is interested

• Let the conversation come to a halt, see if she picks up a conversation with you
• Give her a high five, see if her fingers weave in between yours
• Hold her hand to take her somewhere, then squeeze it, see if she squeeses back

Push / Pull Theory

Push pull is the essence of attraction and in order to create strong attraction we use the push pull theory. The ideal is that thoughout an interaction you PULL with a compliment or something nice, then PUSH with something negative. This on going friction creates mass amounts of attraction. This is because you are giving her little bits and then taking it away. This is also refered to as the cat and mouse theory as you are dangling something good in front of her and then taking it away. If you leave a ball of yarn in front of a cat it wont care, but if you continually push the ball towards the cat and then pull it away the cat will continually go after it.

This is because you are creating tension, you are not swaying straight too one side being the nice guy or the jerk. You are teasing her sence of who you are. Your now the challanging guy who might like her and she will feel like she must prove herself.

Examples

• You are so cute… (pull) Too bad your such a dork (push)
• Your absolutley adorable… (pull) Too bad your not my type (push)
• I just noticed you do the cutest little thing …(pull) when you laugh your nose kinda wiggles (push)

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