There are so many differences between males and females both physically and mentally. Allot of the differences have developed over millions of years of evolution. This has programed our subconscious minds and allows our most primal functions come out. Functions such as fight or flight which will be activated once put in a position of high pressure, such as approaching a beautiful women. Another primal function is attraction and desire for sexual encounters. These are things that we cannot control and are inherent in every human being. Women are highly emotional beings and are able to feel emotions much more strongly than a male, excluding anger. They are naturally much better at using and understanding sub communications such as body language and voice, and are masters of subtext and subtlety.

Lets face it, males are greatly attracted to a women because of her looks. We have the ability to instantly evaluate a women based on her appearance, we talk about this further on. A women however evaluates your attractiveness on your values you can display, and the emotions that you are able to make her feel. Within courtship a female must feel many emotions and you must be someone to guide her though those emotions with the many technique and understandings we have to offer. The female version of pornography is romance novels that are highly based on what a women is feeling throughout an interaction with a male. A women must be seduced though more though feelings and emotions, than logic and physical arousal. Whenever talking with girls your should focus on emotions rather than logic and use feelings to get points across rather than logic.

Girls know that us guys rate them highly on their looks. Therefore they rate their own value on their looks in comparison to their own view of what a beautiful girl looks like and the appearance of any other girls around them. Girls find validation in having guys look at them, even though it can creep them out. They dress up and go to great lengths to make themselves appear attractive. Every girl wants to be thought of a sexy, and using this term is one of the strongest indicators of interest. Girls get off on the feeling that they have sexual power over males and can get guys to jump though their hoops. We as guys must be able to withstand their attractiveness and have a mind of our own, because even though they like this power, they feel it hard to become attracted to a guy that they can just toss around. She has to have something to work towards. Like a cat with a ball of yarn she has to have some feeling that you can stand your ground and there’s even a chance that you might get away.

Females are highly social, they love conversing and desire social status. They play the social game like we play the business game. We will work hard at our job and try for promotions and more money. We see our selves as being high status with a good job and decent income. Girls on the other hand feel the same about their social status. They work on building friendships with other girls that will help raise their social status. Their are attracted to guys who also hold high social status, preferably higher than theirs.

If you are talking with a guy the main area of topic are usually; cars, sports, women, gadgets. In fact if you are looking to build friendships with the males within a group you have approached you can choose to talk about any of these subject to build rapport with other males. However in order to interest girls they have other things they are interested in such as; Relationships, Fashion, Social Controversy, Horoscopes, Personality. In fact these topics are so interesting to girls they are often referred to as chick crack because they find it so interesting they can talk about any of those topics for hours and crave them.

Value

The value of a man is displayed through what he can present to people through his personality and charisma. A woman’s value is based vastly upon looks and appearances. A woman’s perceived value upon herself is how attractive she sees herself in comparison to the people around her. If you want to be able to attract a women you must demonstrate a higher value than what she perceives her own value to be.

Note: Just because you believe a girl to be of high value, her own perception of her appearance and value may be lower than what you perceive it to be. And in this game, perception is reality.

Recommended Listening: On Value

Woman’s Ideals

What women believe they want in a man, is usually what they want from a relationship. Examples of good relationship characteristics are caring, kind, etc. However this may not always be what they are attracted to. In fact it is usually the opposite, these attractive features will be listed further on in Attraction. However if you are getting female advice on dating and courtship you should take what they say with a grain of salt. Many women do not know what they are attracted to, or in some cases do not want to believe that they are attracted to such features. For example some women may be attracted to wealth. However because this is seen as being “shallow” by society, girls will often try not to believe it and deny their attraction or lie about it.

Recommended Listening: Female Psychology

“Attraction is not a choice”

This is stated by one of the worlds best pick up artists; David DeAngelo. It is a fact that attraction is not a choice. You do not logically choose who you are attracted to. If you see a beautiful girl walk past, you cannot help but feel attracted to her. And if you are attracted to a girl, it is very hard for you to loose this attraction. It is the subconscious part of your brain analyzing the other sex and evaluating them as a potential suitor. If your subconscious believes they are a potential suitor, then your subconscious mind will cause you to feel attracted to that person. This also works in our favor; if you are able to demonstrate high value to a woman she WILL feel attraction towards you.

Recommended Reading: Magic Bullets (ebook)

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