Qualification
Simply put – this is where you screen the target to get her to prove to you that she is a potential suitor. You have now built up some attraction with a women and noticed at least 3 IOI’s. When you ask a screening question the target is going to know that you are going to make certain judgements on her answer. Therefore she will always think her question though and give you a decent answer. If a girl answers with a yes, no, i don’t know. Then you have not built up enough attraction, this is a quick sign to go back and work on some more DHV’s. Asking a quick qualification question will help you easily define whether or not a girl is attracted to you. You can make a simple command like; “tell me something interesting about your self”. If a girl answers this question well then you can tell that the girl is attracted to you, even if you use this line right after an opener.
The reason we qualify women is to prevent them from thinking “this guy only like me for my looks”. Ultimately it gives you a reason to be attracted to her, and also gives you several threads to build rapport. We as people all value what we have to work for, by screening a girl we are getting her to invest more into attracting you and giving her the feeling of earning your attraction.
In Qualification you can now start asking more questions. Aim for questions that you would honestly like to know the answer to. Questions that would let you know if shes your type. If you like a girl who likes to travel, ask her if shes been overseas. Alternatively you can make a statement, such as, you’ve got this worldly vibe about you, i bet you’ve travelled allot.
Other examples of questions
- Do you smoke?
- So can you cook? … what would you make me?
- Are you and your family close?
- What do you do for fun?
- Were do you work?
- Whats your fav thing in the world?
- If you could have any super power, what would it be?
- Tell me 3 (interesting | funny | random) things about your self
After a girl has qualified herself, you should then compliment her on that quality. e.g. after you asked what she could cook for you, you could reply with “oh my god, no way that is one of my favorite dishes! yeah you can be my personal chef, and I’ll call you up at like 2am for toast”. Make the compliment feel like she wouldn’t had got it if she had given you any other answer, try your best to relate the compliment to your life. In the last example I related the dish she mentioned with it being one of my favourite. You could further root this to your life by mentioning that one of your ex girlfriends used to make it for you all the time, but you’ve been served it less and less lately (also notice the DHV of preselection in there).
Never reject a girls answer to your screening question, even if you didn’t like what she said. When a girl is qualifying her self she is putting her personality and who she is on the line. To disagree with what she says here is a large form of rejection. Always compliment her on her answer. At the end of the qualification phase you can give her an overall compliment e.g. “you know when we first met I thought you were bit of brat, but now ive gotten to know you better, your actualy pretty cool” (This also contains push / pull theory).
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